Going Against the Grain: Wear a Dress that Reflects Your Style, Not the Location!

05/05/2016 By Randy Fenoli

Let me tell you, I have seen three wedding on the beaches three years in a row (in Grand Cayman in May and June). One bride wore a Pnina Tornai gown covered in rhinestones on the beach. The next wedding I saw was a Carolina Herrera satin gown with three-dimensional petals swirling about the entire gown. And the last gown I saw was Oscar de le Renta. These are not gowns that you would think of for a destination wedding dress. And that is what brides are doing: they are wearing dresses to reflect their style, not the location. Just because you are getting married on a beach, that doesn’t mean you have to wear a chiffon slip dress. Wear the dress that makes you feel the most comfortable. That being said, I wouldn’t recommend a heavy, long-sleeved satin gown with a ball gown skirt in the heat of August, on the beach in Mexico!

A girl got married in a barn once and she went from salon to salon looking for a gown, and ended up in tears. She could not find a dress she liked. I asked her what the problem was and she said she couldn’t find a dress; she was getting married in a barn. I asked her what he would wear if she wasn’t getting married in the barn. She told me that she liked sparkle and bling and glitz. So I went a pulled a solid jeweled encrusted bolero jacket and a solid jewel-encrusted bodice with a pick-up skirt by Monique Lhullier.

I put it on her and the tears started to flow. I said ‘this is your dress’! All you have to do is hang a chandelier in the middle of that barn and it is going to work. And she did and it worked!

It’s really about finding the dress you love and making it work for where you are getting married. People aren’t going to be expecting that. If you walk out in this satin gown on the beach, people are going to think oh my gosh I thought she was going to wear a slip dress. This is really cool. The most important thing is finding the gown you love and feel comfortable in and then making it work.

There is always an exception to the rule.  Just like Kate Middleton. I always say not to wear your hair down with lace or a high-neck gown. Kate Middleton was perfection. She said that reason she left her hair down is because she never wears it up. I want people to recognize me when I walk down the aisle. So there is your exception to the rule and how can that be wrong!

The most important thing is finding the gown you love and feel comfortable in and then making it work.

Randy Fenoli is the Fashion Director for Kleinfeld and star of TLC’s hit show: Say Yes to the Dress.  For those brides who can’t travel to New York, Randy is taking his head-to-hem bridal beauty show on the road with his new show Randy to the Rescue. Visit randyfenoli.com for more information.